Do you sometimes find yourself focusing in on the things your partner does wrong?
This is such a natural trait for couples who have become comfortable with each other, and moved past the 'dating' phase in their relationship.
And especially when we are busy, and focused on the day to day activity in our lives. I mean, work, kids, money management, and life in general can tend to get ALL the attention!
Now it's easy to keep reminding our partner of all the things they haven't done, and forget to look at what they have done, and what they do for us daily.
So, let's make it a habit to bring out the "darling" in us. The side of us that our partner sometimes doesn't get to see.
But sometimes it can be hard to remember the areas they do really well in. So here are a few areas to get you thinking and creating opportunities to help your partner feel loved and valued.
Areas to compliment each other in:
Sense of humour
Feeling safe and valued around each other
How smart they are
Ask for their advice
Level of strength (physical, emotional, mentally)
Re-enforce what you want (I love it when you...)
Compliment their status (mother, brother, partner, colleague etc.)
One way to make sure you compliment your partner daily is to add it into your diary. It might sound extreme to you, but becoming conscious about how often we compliment our partner (and those around us in general) will mean we are spreading a goodwill, rather than focusing on what our partner hasn't done, or the things that irritate us about them.