Have you ever wondered why some seemingly plain looking people seem to get all the attention? And then you see the hottest guy or gal, coasting on their own, moving from one relationship to another?
What it the attractor factor for finding your hottie has less to do with your physical features than you thought?
Well, science now shows us that how to get more of the "attractor factor", so we can get the guy or gal for us!
What is charisma? (Your Super Powers Of Connection)
Charisma is rooted in values and feelings. It’s influence born of the alchemy that Aristotle called the logos, the ethos, and the pathos; that is, to persuade others, you must use powerful and reasoned rhetoric, establish personal and moral credibility, and then rouse followers’ emotions and passions. If a leader can do those three things well, he or she can then tap into the hopes and ideals of followers, give them a sense of purpose, and inspire them to achieve great things. (Taken from learning Charisma by John Antonakis, Marika Fenley and Sue Liechti)
So, if you want an unfair advantage on the "game field" of dating, here are some cool tips to connect in to your super powers, also known in some circles as "charisma"!
Science shows that we can LEARN to be more charismatic... but first... your intention will make a massive difference here. If your intention with charisma is to trick people, well, then that is not charisma, it is manipulation.... and although that might work initially, it's hard to hide that forever! Eventually the world sees through the thin veil.
Charisma on the other hand is a genuine desire to build stronger, deeper connections with people. And, if as a result, we find a partner through that, then great! And if not, we have made a new friend
Here are some hot tips of how you can ooze charisma... and will it happen overnight? Well, if you have been living under a rock, being anti social for years, it will take practice, my darling! Be prepared to work on these skills - because its a life long journey!
I believe that charisma all starts with what is going on upstairs! That is, our thoughts... If we are having shitty thoughts, this permeates through everything we do... one of my mentors introduced me to the model.... Thoughts, Feelings, Actions, Results...
Imagine for a moment a guy goes into a bar... yes... its an age old story... nothing new. he goes in with the intention of getting a gal, and taking her home and having his way with her...
The thought - any girl will do. I don't have time to waste! I better get lucky tonight...
The feeling - desperation, anticipation, expectation
The action - coming on to anyone who has a pulse
The result - another one night stand
Now, a different thought:
The thought - I am going out to have a good time and to connect with others
The feeling - excited, anticipation, observant, present
The action - speaking to people, listening to their story, asking questions, being curious
The result - a new friend, perhaps a date booked, and maybe in a warm